Conflict style is the pattern of how a person behaves in the first 10 minutes of a disagreement with a partner. BiggDate's Maahi probes this directly because research on couples finds that how a disagreement starts is a strong predictor of how the relationship fares (Carrère & Gottman, 1999) — relationships rarely fail because of disagreement itself, but because of how it is handled.
Common patterns: direct confrontation (raise the issue immediately, tone may be sharp), withdrawal (go silent, shut down, need space), repair-seeking (pause and try to restore connection before unpacking), pursuit (follow into another room, escalate to demand resolution), and stonewalling (refuse to engage, dismiss).
BiggDate uses conflict style alongside attachment style to predict friction in a pair. Two confronters can work if both are direct and recover quickly. Confronter + withdrawer — known in research as the demand-withdraw pattern — is one of the best-documented problem dynamics (Christensen & Heavey, 1990).
Conflict style is not a moral judgment. It is information.